Mr. Harry E. Oakes Jr.
Certified Dog Obedience Instructor
PO Box# 1472 Longview, Washington
Office (360) 414-8093 Mobile (503) 705-0258.
FORWARD: So many times I receive a call from a frustrated dog partner.
We don't call them dog owners anymore. He or she has spent lots of their
time, money, and energy attending a number of dog obedience courses
where they failed to learn anything. Their statements to me are that,
"they are totally frustrated because their dog won't listen to them".
So, I meet with the dog's human partners, not just one of them, but all
Everyone in the family so I can see the family pack structure. I then
spend about an hour with all of them explaining animal communication
skills. Within the hour, I have the humans fully trained. If you train
the dog and not the dog partners, you are wasting your time, money and
99.9% of the time, when the dog fails to listen, the dog isn't
understanding what the dog partners wants him or her to do. So, I just
teach the dog partners how to listen and read their dog’s body language.
I also teach them how to communicate with their loved one so everyone
understands what each other wants and need, and they all get along just
Dogs learn like human children learn, through repeated verbal responses
and physical commands, associated with physical actions.
Training with love not fear.
If you train the dog through torture or fear of being tortured with pain
by using choke chains, pinch collars, shock collars, intimidation, and
fear, then the poor dog will respond only out of fear of being hurt,
tortured, and injured.
Hitting, yelling, choking, threatening, shocking, are all current means
that are used by uneducated lazy local so called animal behavior
These methods for those of us who are educated in the Love, Hugs, and
Kisses method of teaching, would not never ever approve of, nor will we
ever tolerate any of these actions under any circumstances in our
My method is called Love, Hugs and Kisses. I teach my instructors and
students (dogs and partners) through mutual respect, love, hugs, and
kisses. (We kiss the dogs not the students).
I've taught around the world, to over 6,500 search dogs, services dogs,
police patrol dogs, and dogs in general for basic obedience. My methods
teach the dog through love, hugs, and kisses response just like I would
a human child.
I treat the dog the same way I would want to be treated. This method
works in that the dog learns respect for its self, its partner, you and
others that it comes in contact with, such as your friends and family.
Change your mindset. You are not the dog’s owners. I want you to get
into the mind set that you are your dog’s best friend and life partner.
You live together, sleep together, and eat together. Share good and bad
times together, and no matter what you do or say, your dog(s) will be
there for you no matter what happens. He or she, (Your dog), deserves
100% of your love and respect and for you to be there for your dog.
After all they see you at your worst. In the am when you are naked, bad
breath, bad body odor, bad hair, and all. Yet they aren’t judging, they
still love you. You in return will get nothing less then 100% of their
love in return.
Communication, being able to listen and communicate with your partner,
will make you and your dog partner a perfect team. Mutual love, respect
and understanding will then exist. Start with understanding your dog’s
body language. When a puppy is born, she / he will submit to an older
The submitting dog will lower its head, eyes, ears, and tail and will
cower to say, "I submit, you are in charge". The dog’s psychological
mental status and self-esteem can be made strong or broken at this time.
If the dog's alpha partner is loving, gentle and consistent in all of
their control issues, the dog’s physic will remain intact and confident.
If the alpha partner is over-bearing and too strong, the submitting dog
will lose it's confidence and be a beta dog. Submissive and lacking in
confidence. Suffering from low self-esteem.
Dogs have the same exact emotions that you and I do. Remember this; they
feel sadness, jealousy, happiness, anger, guilt, and all that goes with
So it's your responsibility to learn how to communicate, listen and
teach. First start out by kneeling down or sitting down and give your
dog a gentle hug. Tell your dog that, "you love him / her". Example: I
will call my dog over and whisper to her," Valorie, come". When she
does, I give her a gentle hug, not overpowering, and give her a kiss on
the face. I’ll tell her how much I love her and how important she is to
me to have her in my life as my partner. I then lay down on the ground
and start playing with her favorite toy. Bring out the happiness inside
of her. Her reward is love and understanding. I’ll play for about five
Starting the Obedience.
Before I start obedience work with my dog, I put her in her harness and
I hook up her lead 6' lead hooked to the back of the harness. I always
use the dog’s first name for a positive command. "Valorie sit, Valorie
stay, Valorie come, Valorie heel, Valorie down, etc." I never use her
first name in a corrective action.
I don't want her to associate her name with something negative.
When I tell Valorie what I want her to do, I follow through each and
every time with a specific hand signal for that specific command. That
way if she can't hear me for some reason, she'll see the hand signal and
respond immediately. So I'll start working her without distractions at
first. I'll give Valorie the command once. "Valorie sit". I then
immediately follow through with a hand signal specific for that command.
If Valorie responds as expected, I then give her a quick gentle hug,
love, and a kiss on her forehead.
When she does what I want her to do, I instantly reward her. If for some
reason she doesn't do what I want her to do, then I don't repeat myself.
I'll simply put her into the position I asked her to get into. Once she
gets into this position, I praise her. "Good girl Valorie, that's my
girl, good job". Then I'll give her love, hugs, and kisses. There are no
food rewards, no shock, pinch, choke collars and no fear, just positive
love, hugs, and kisses.
Should she be distracted or just refuse to listen to me, I immediately
walk over to her, put her gently into the position I wanted her in, wait
for three seconds then give her a reward.
After repeating this several times, Valorie will learn quickly that when
I ask or tell her to do something, it's expected immediately and she'll
get love, hugs, kisses, immediately if she listens. If she doesn't
listen, she learns quickly that she still has to get into the position
and does what she is told. Until then, she doesn't get any love, hugs or
kisses reaction until she does listen. Positive reinforcement works.
I perform this action each and every time with Valorie for each command.
Why not use choke chains, pinch collars, shock collars? Because they are
cruel. If you love someone then why would you choke or scare them into
submission? Just like electric (invisible fencing). I challenge anyone
who owns it to put the shock collar around his or her ankle and walk
through the fencing.
You only will need to do it once before you throw the fencing and collar
in the trash where it belongs. Besides they don't work. I get an average
of two calls a week from people missing their dogs who have invisible
fencing collars around their necks.
I've trained every breed and mixed breed of dogs known to man. My
It's been adopted by hundreds of animal trainers, and communicators
around the world to include SAR (Search and Rescue) dog handlers, drug
enforcement handlers, bomb detection, therapy, and working K-9 Police
There is no such thing as a "STUPID DOG". There are a lot of ignorant
human pet partners. People who tie their dog up outside, or leave it all
alone in the garage all day while they are gone at work. Put yourself in
your dog’s position. Would you want to be treated like this? I don't
A dog is like a child. They absorb everything and anything around them,
whether it be positive or negative. There are a lot dog obedience books
out there. Written by many so-called "Experts". If you read through the
egos, you'll find they all stress one important factor, communication.
The more you are willing to teach your dog partner and listen to your
dog partner, the better you both will be as a team.
Before she died in my arms Jan. 2009, my 14-1/2 year old working partner
Valorie understood 145-word vocabulary, 5 hand signals and 5 whistle
commands. That's only because I didn’t take the time to teach her more.
Shopping list and class information.
Obedience / Safety.
1). 6 foot long leather or nylon leash. (Thickness should correspond to
the size of
2). Training harness only. No choke chains, pinch collars, shock
collars, or any
other collar allowed to include flea collars. (Flea collars don’t work.
waste your money). Nothing around the dog’s neck. No id collars.
3. A 20-50 foot long line, leather gloves to protect your hands. Please
is used for long distance recalls like “come”. Also for boundary
long distance stays and recalls. Please do not confuse it with a
leash which are not allowed in my classes for any reason.
4. Treats are not allowed for you or your dog partner during training.
5. All dogs should have a simple to read id tag stating the human
and telephone# and an emergency # belonging to next of kin or friend of
family. This should be attached to the back of the dogs harness. I
recommend you get your dog micro chipped with an AVID, ISO, 24-hour pet
watch, or HOME AGAIN chip. Make sure you contact the microchip
company and register your current contact information and an emergency
other contact information, in case you are injured or killed in an
6. Sturdy shoes and or boots for footgear are recommended. No open toed
shoes or sandals please.
7. All work and no play makes learning less enjoyable. Try Go-FRR BALLS,
slingshot action fetch balls will turn your couch potato into a lean
Frisbees work well also.
8. You dog must be healthy in order to learn. Proper diet maximizes your
potential. My trainers recommend proper diet of premium hard kibble for
stages of your dogs training and life.
9. All children must be under control. An adult human must supervise
under ten. I don’t mind if you use a shock collar on the human kids. .
1. CHEWING-Proper diet-ask your trainer which formula is right for your
dog or puppy. Nylabones, gumabones, rhino toys, bitter apple (spray and
paste), an old t-shirt or sock wetted down and tied in a knot and frozen
in the freezer helps young teething tikes.
2. DIGGING-Small lava rocks, toys as noted above, nail clippers to cut
dog's nails. Teach them where it's appropriate to dig (sand box, etc.)
and where not to dig. Usually they dig because they are ignored and
bored. Negative attention is better then no attention. Remember your dog
can hear a heart beat at 5 feet away. They may be digging for that mole
or gopher they hear crawling around under the ground.
3. HOUSEBREAKING- I recommend large plastic animal carriers. If you have
a small dog and or wish to potty train him/her to a specific spot in
your house, use the puppy go potty house training system. When you see
them go pee. Tell them "Go PEE" and show them where you want this done.
Reward them when they do it correctly. If they make a mistake, don't rub
their noses in it, don't hit, spank, or yell. Just say "NO", (never use
the dogs name in a corrective action). Take them to the area where you
want them to do their business and then give them the "Love hugs and
kisses reward system". Soon you'll have them trained to where you want
them to go. Yes there will be a few mistakes along the way. Don't make
it a big deal. It's not.
4. BARKING-A squirt gun or spray bottle filled with water. NOTE: These
devices should not be used unless suggested by your trainer. Now don't
get frustrated and use a SUPER SOAKER. Try to figure out why your dog is
barking. Remember, they can hear a human heartbeat at 5 feet away. So
they may be hearing some strange noises, other dogs barking, footsteps,
intruders, before you hear the same noises. If the dog is barking just
for attention, then give them attention. Give them an alternative to
barking. Play toy, TV, video, radio to be entertained with. Just say,
"Quiet" then reward them when they are quiet.
If they refuse to listen and continue to bark, then put them on a leash,
take them outside to investigate what it is they are trying to warn you
about. Let them see there is no immediate threat. Once that's determined
and if they still continue to bark, say, "quiet". If they refuse to be
quiet, then spray them once with a squirt gun filled with water. Bring
them close to you and reward them once they are quiet through the love,
hugs and kisses program. If they still want to bark, then put them on a
sit stay in a corner, (time out) and ignore them for a few minutes. They
will soon learn that if they want to be in the same room and get the
positive loving attention from you and the rest of the family, they will
have to listen to you.
I don’t ever recommend the use of bark inhibitors, remote trainers, and
invisible fencing collars.
These are shock collars and are extremely painful and cruel. If you
don't believe me, put it around your ankle, wet it down, and try it on
yourself. They have killed several animals. Never use choke chains,
pinch collars, or shock collars. These are cruel and inhumane and in my
opinion, only ignorant people use these tools. You are now better
educated and now know why you shouldn’t ever leave a collar of any kind
around your dog’s neck. After training remove the harness from the dog
while it's in the house or backyard.
I prefer you use a harness only. While the dog is at home, nothing is
worn on their body. No harness. I've seen many dogs die from getting
their flea or id collars caught on furniture, fences, or on another
dog’s jaw while playing. As they struggle out of fear of being caught
up, and choked, they are strangled to death by their collars. (That’s
why I don’t like or approve of collars).
Use the harness also as a seat belt for your dog. Remember that each
time you stop in your car to go shopping, dine out, or tend to business,
undo your dog from the seat belt so they can move around. It's a great
idea to have your dog micro chipped. Never ever leave your dog in a car
on a warm day. Thousands of dogs die needless horrible deaths because
their owners leave them in a hot car.
Treat your four-legged child like you would your two-legged child. Dogs
have souls. They have feelings, emotions, and a spirit just like you do.
They can learn to love, hate, be bitter, embarrassed, suffer from low
self-esteem. So please treat them with love, hugs, kisses, and respect
and they in turn will reward you with the same. You are equals. Without
you, your dog is just that a dog. Without your dog, you are just a
human. Lonely without the love of your faithful partner. Together you
both make up a great team. A partnership filled with love. Honor that
friendship, partnership and love.
Just like you would a small child, prevent your puppy or untrained dog
from "practicing" inappropriate behavior. Rewarding correct behavior is
also critical. Know what your dog likes and reward with that when he/she
is being good. Pull toy, ball, Frisbee, wrestle with them. Don't ignore
your dog when he/she is good.
Everyone in the family needs to be consistent with the same commands,
the same reward system, and the same hand signals. Don't allow your dog
partner to engage in behavior that you won't want when they're
While group class alone won't solve aggression, aggressive dogs may
attend group class under certain circumstances. your trainer will allow
your aggressive pet in class provided he/she can be managed well enough
to pose NO safety threat to any person, dog or itself.
Often aggression should first be treated in home with private training
and followed by group when the dog is ready. Your trainer may recommend
additional equipment and training techniques which must be used during
class to insure everybody's safety as well as optimal learning for the
aggressive dog and all other dogs in class.
I've always taught that if you let your dog sleep, in the same bed as
your child or at least the same room, allowing the dog to have it's own
bed in your room or child's room, they will make a much more manageable
dog. They bond more quickly, they are less aggressive, and more
Don't ever just throw your dog outside in a garage, doghouse, or dog
run. That's ok for a short break, 15 minutes or so. but would you leave
your two legged child tethered up by it's harness outside for hours on
end? I hope not. Many dogs are stolen when left outside ignored and sold
for medical experiments or dog fighting.
If you love your dog, keep them close. Your dog is a child with fir. He
/ she lives for love, attention, hugs, kisses, and play. There is no
such thing as a STUPID DOG or DUMB DOG. The dog is a reflection of its
owner. Often there's a communication break down that occurs and the dog
partner simply doesn't understand what is being requested of him/her.
JUMPING. When your dog jumps up on people, they are trying to say, "Hi
love me". What you need to do is train your dog to obtain the love the
dog desired by sitting down next to the person(s) they greet, so that
they can be loved. When the dog goes to jump on you or someone else,
gently put your knee in their chest and say, "NO". Then put the dog on a
sit stay. When the dog sits, then bend down and give it lots of love.
What the dog will learn is that if it jumps it will be rejected. If it
sits and stays, it will receive the love it wants and needs.
NEVER ever smoke cigarettes around your pet. Over 550,000 four legged
children (pets) die every year from second hand smoke poisoning.
Commands taught: Heel, automatic sit, stay, down, come, down stay, no,
Problems addressed: Chewing, digging, housebreaking, jumping, nipping,
and barking, peeing, pooping.
Note: Harry has written five books on search dogs, and search and
He's taught his "Love, hugs, and kisses" program to over 6,5000 dogs and
their partners around the world since 1986. He's been called the, "dog
whisperer". He can communicate with dogs, wolves, and many other
Often when other search dog teams have failed at finding the missing,
his teams have repeatedly been successful. His search dog teams have
been featured on TV shows such as "Rescue 9-1-1, Unsolved mysteries, 60
minutes, 48 hours, 20-20, Dateline, Good day America, MS NBC, and Oprah.
He’s also been featured in People magazine.
AKC’s Canine Good Citizen Test
1). Accepting a friendly stranger. This test demonstrates that the dog
will allow a friendly stranger to approach and speak to the handler in a
natural, everyday situation. The evaluator walks up tot the dog and
handler and greets the handler in a friendly manner, ignoring the dog.
The dog must show no sign of resentment or shyness and must not break
position or try to go to the evaluator.
2). Sitting politely for petting.
This test demonstrates that the dog will allow a friendly stranger to
touch him while he is out with his handler. With the dog sitting at the
handler’s side to begin the exercise, the evaluator pets the dog on the
head and body. The dog must not show shyness or resentment.
3). Appearance and grooming.
This test demonstrates that the dog will welcome being groomed and
examined and will permit someone, such as a veterinarian, groomer, or
friend of the owner, to do so. The evaluator inspects the dog to
determine if he is clean and groomed. The dog must appear to be a proper
weight, clean, healthy, and alert. The evaluator then softly combs or
brushes the dog and, in a natural manner, lightly examines the ears and
gently picks up each front foot.
4). Out for a walk (on a loose lead). This test demonstrates that the
handler is in control of the dog. The dog’s position should leave no
doubt that the dog is attentive to the handler, is responding to the
handler’s movements, and changes of direction.
5). Walking through a crowd. This test demonstrates that the dog can
move about politely in pedestrian traffic and is under control in public
places. The dog and handler walk around and pass close to at least three
people the dog may show some interest in strangers but should continue
to walk with the handler, without evidence of over exuberance, shyness,
or resentment, and without jumping on people or restraining on the
6). “Sit” and “down” on command, and “stay in place”. This test
demonstrates that the dog will respond to the handler’s commands to
“sit” and “down” and will remain in the place commanded by the handler.
The dog must sit and lie down on command, then the owner chooses the
position for leaving the dog in the stay. The dog must remain in the
place where he was left (he may change position) until the evaluator
instructs the handler to release the dog.
7). Coming when called. This test demonstrates that the dog will come
when called by the handler. The handler walks 10 feet from the dog,
turns to face the dog, and calls the dog. The handler may use
encouragement to get the dog to come. The handler may choose to tell the
dog to ”stay’ or “wait” or may simply walk away, giving no instructions
to the dog.
8). Reacting to another dog. This test demonstrates that the dog can
behave politely around other dogs. Two handlers and their dogs approach
each other from a distance of about 20 feet, stop, shake hands, exchange
pleasantries, and continue on for about 10 feet. The dog should show no
more then casual interest in each other. Neither dog should go to the
other dog or it’s handler.
9). Reaction to distraction. This test demonstrates that the dog is
confident at all times when faced with common distracting situations.
The evaluator selects and presents two distractions such as dropping a
chair, having a jogger run in front of the dog, or dropping a crutch or
cane. The dog may express natural interest and may appear slight
startled but should no panic, show aggressiveness, or bark.
10). Supervised separation. This test demonstrates that a dog can be
left with a trusted person, if necessary, and will maintain training and
good manners. The evaluator says, “Would you like me to watch your dog?”
and then takes hold of the dog’s leash. The owner goes out of sight for
three minutes. The dog does not have to stay in position but should not
continually bark, whine, or show anything stronger than mild agitation
Introduction to responsible dog ownership. Meet and greet dogs, petting,
ears and feet. Practice walk on loose lead”, start dog obedience
training. Sit, stay, come, and heel. Dog owner learns basic dog care
techniques. Feeding, bathing, cleaning ears, coat. Trimming nails.
Brushing dog’s teeth. Checking dog from nose to tail for ticks, bites,
Meet and greet the dogs. Touch ears and feet, try a brush or comb.
Practice walk on a loose lead. Practice sit, stay, come, down in motion,
heel. Dog handler learns basic dog first aid, giving meds, taking
temperature, dealing with life threatening emergencies. Loading and
unloading dog in vehicle. Transporting in seat belt or kennel.
New person does meet, greet, brief groom. Walk on a loose lead. Walk by
distraction dog. “Sit” and “sit-stay”, “down and start “down-stay”. Ad
time to sit-stay. dog comes when called. Dog owner gets dog
micro-chipped and or tattooed.
Greet dogs as students arrive, touching ears, and feet. Walk on a loose
lead closer to other dogs, near other people. Weave in and out of
people. Students demonstrate “sit-stay” and “down-stay”. Add time and
Start on supervised separation.
Add more difficult distractions and time to stays, distance to come.
Start having owner move away from the dogs on stays. Use whistle and
hand signals for come, down in motion, stays. Work on basic agility,
over, under, around, left, right, through.
Work on problem areas, increasing distances, adding distractions,
changing exercise locations and formats.
Students should be going out 20 feet on stays, out to 10 feet for come.
Dogs should not jump on distractions dog and should tolerate the
touching of ears and feet.
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||Elly on sit
stay in the park.
Tyler, and Willow on Sit stay in the park.
Note: Harness goes over head and around the body. Clips at
side. Dog’s id is clipped to back of harness on top. Near
lead attachment site.